As with the weddings and all interfaith ceremonies, the funeral is created around what you wish to have in the funeral. I’ll do what I can to respect your wishes, whether it is a green funeral, only silence or any theme that you or your family wish to have. I will check with you when I produce a first draft of the ceremony that you are happy with every single word – and if you’re not, then I’ll make whatever changes are needed until you are happy. You have the final say.
Although I may not have met the person I am holding the funeral for I can still offer a personalised ceremony in tribute to them. I’m there to hold both the structure of the service, and be there for you as you pay tribute to your loved one. Sometimes family and friends want and need to participate in the ceremony, and sometimes family and friends don’t want to do or say anything other than be there. We’re all different and our needs are different.
Planning for the Future?
Woody Allen famously joked ‘there are only two things you can be sure of in this life; death and taxes’. Although we all seem somehow wired to believe that we will live forever, its good to write your own funeral in case of the inevitable happening. Then you can sound the themes and words that you would like to have happen as if you were there. If this interests you contact me for a consultation to help write your funeral service. I’ve written my funeral service and also my will and it has actually made me more alive and present today in my life.
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