Letting Go: Letting go ceremonies are helpful to enable you to move on from a past situation which no longer serves you.
Divorces & Separations are an unfortunate reality in today’s Western world. They can be very traumatic especially if children are involved and affect us all for a long time in ways that perhaps only death rivals, and unlike death there can be no obvious closure. So a separation ceremony offers the possibility to move on and find your own niche and internal balance in life again.
It is preferable but not necessary to have the couple present. The reality though is that couples separate at their own speed so often this is not possible. Individual healing is possible in creating a ceremony as if the other partner were there or one personalised for your own letting go and moving on.
So whether you are two friends who are amicably moving on after realising you both needed something else or if you are in the middle of an acrimonious custody battle, a separation ceremony can be a helpful way of marking an ending and allowing the new to present itself. It takes courage and compassion to look the ending of time spent together in the eye and announce to yourself that it is time to move on. My role is to be there for you as you do so, to hold your hand and love you through this time of moving on. It involves both a diving into the reality of how you feel and an acknowledgement of Grace in your life.
It is also important to think about what unconsciously binds you together and see if you wish to let go of these vows, beliefs and habits.
Personally speaking, this has been one of the most powerful ceremonies for me in my own interfaith training and I believe the need for these ceremonies to be vital and needed and I am very sympathetic and supportive of this rite of passage. Spiritually I have grown and learnt a lot about myself through my separations.
Cost: $6000. Usually ceremonies like this can involve over 25 hours work in preparation, counselling and the actual ceremony.
Photo courtesy of Rev. Amanda Taylor-Carpenter